When I first started in personal development I went to a LOT of trainings and asked a LOT of questions. One question an answer has always stood out, and has become extremely useful to me over the years…
I once asked a very happy, positive, successful multi-millionaire:
“What do you think has been the biggest thing that has helped you get to where you are today?”
His answer shocked me, he said:
I was stunned for a minute, because I had just finished going through tons of spiritual trainings by Dr. Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra (who happened to be friends with this multi-millionaire), as well as many others that spoke of your ego as something that is not positive for you…
He continued to say “If you don’t believe you are one of the best at what you do, if you don’t expect to succeed at a very high level… then how can you ever get there. You have to expect it, then you’ll get it.” (when you believe it, then you’ll see it)
The learning that has stuck with me for years from this answer, is that you can still think and expect to be better than the norm… without being a jerk about it, and without feeling bad about having an ego.
To this day, this multi-millionaire is one of the nicest, most down to earth people I know. He never brags about his money or shows off to anyone. He would never say to anyone that he is better than them… and he would never look down on anyone or treat someone unfairly.
Instead, he has embraced his ego and used it to his advantage. He expects and truly believes, that he will succeed in everything he does at a much higher level than any average person… and that’s why he does.
Remember, as long as you don’t act like a jerk or act like you’re better than others… your ego can be a very powerful tool…
Because a big ego generally means you have a lot of confidence… and confidence is key in everything you do. When you are confident, you expect positivity and success… and you get what you expect.
– Talor Zamir